To dream about sex refers to the integration and merging of contrasting aspects of yourself. It represents psychological completion. You need to be more receptive and incorporate aspects of your dream sex partner into your own character. Consider the nature of the love-making. Was it passionate? Was it slow? Was it wild? The sex act parallels aspects of yourself that you wish to express.
A more direct interpretation of the dream may be your libido’s way of telling you that it has been too long since you have had sex. It may indicate repressed sexual desires and your needs for physical and emotional love.
Sex is an element that is inherent in our society and daily life; it is the element that allows us to prevail as a species, so it is totally normal to dream of having sex. As with any other type of dream, the meaning that can be obtained from it, will vary according to how it was experienced, and with whom it was experienced.
In most cases, dreaming about sex is not really about the sexual act. From a psychological perspective, dreaming about having sex may symbolize a merging of some unequal aspects within you, or a subconscious need to incorporate aspects of that dream sexual partner into yourself. You must then take into account who that partner is in your dream and how you feel about him or her in your lucid life, in order to determine what your dream is trying to say.
Of course, we must not forget that we never really know the meaning of dreams, since our mind reproduces a series of elements that are very different from each other when we sleep. And don’t feel bad: dreaming about sex is one of the most recurrent dreams. It is normal that this type of dream generates a little restlessness and discomfort, being a subject that despite the open awareness that is lived today, to some extent it is still considered a taboo subject. These nocturnal visions can serve as a guide to help us in our daily lives, specifically to better understand our relationships.
Generally speaking, dreaming about sex is usually a sign that different parts of your body are in conflict with each other, and the way in which the dream develops is an allegorical representation of how the disjunctive parts of you come together to form a single concept, which, seen superficially, can send a completely wrong message than what it really seeks to convey; and since sex is one of the elements that generate the most powerful sensations in the human body, it is normal that your subconscious seeks to make you notice those irregularities by dreaming about it.
What does it mean to dream of sex?
Sexual dreams are one of the dreams that offer more metaphors of situations or emotions of our daily life. Deciphering what our subconscious is trying to communicate to us through these sex dreams can illuminate how we really feel about something or someone, or reveal some roadblocks that are preventing us from bettering ourselves. Rather than being a reference to our sexual desires and performance in bed, it is an allegorical manifestation of how we are affected by something in our environment. It is necessary to study the dream leaving aside the sexual act itself, which is not really the central focus of the dream, but the way in which it develops.
For some people it is difficult to accept that they have lived this type of dream, without taking into consideration the series of important messages that it can bring to their life, since consciously engaging in the sexual dream can serve as a guide to help you tune in to your creative passion in life. If you manage to set aside the social prejudices you may experience after dreaming about sex, and sit down to analyze in detail the allegorical aspects of the dream, you will gain access to a part of your brain that would otherwise be impossible.
Dreaming of oral sex
If in your dream you experienced oral sex, whether it was you who did it, or someone did it to you; it means that you are trying to decipher how the people around you feel about you. From a spiritual perspective oral sex in dreams focuses on how we communicate. This is because the main element involved in this type of sexual act is the use of the mouth. It can be a clear sign that you possess a good indicator of competent communication skills. On the other hand, if within the dream you experienced some discomfort, this may mean that you are struggling to express yourself in your lucid life.
Dreams about sex with your ex
Despite what dreaming about having sex with your ex may suggest, this type of dream is a clear indication that you have finally accepted the end of the relationship, thus managing to reconcile with that part of you that was still vainly clinging to that person. Unconsciously, you have learned from the good and the bad of that relationship, and now you are ready to put into practice the lessons learned. The ex in the dream, rather than representing the actual person, is an allegory that you are not afraid of a new relationship in which you will not repeat the same mistakes.
Dreaming of sex with a woman
If you are a man, it is completely normal to dream of having sex with a woman. More than being a conscious desire of man, it is a biological process, and is that sex is one of the elements that is most present in the minds of men, as a form of preservation of the species, even more so when they are surrounded by women in their waking life. Now, if you are a woman, you should not start questioning your sexuality. Seeing yourself experiencing a sexual relationship with another woman in dreams represents your feminine side, which includes your nurturing and nurturing skills, with which you are coming to terms.
Dreams with sex with a friend
If in your dreams you have sex with your best friend, it does not mean that you feel some kind of attraction to him in your waking life. Whether you are a man or a woman, dreaming about having sex with a close friend is a symbol of the importance that person has in your life, and that you actually feel a huge fear of losing him or her, because it is very common to associate letting yourself be carried away by lust as something that is wrong, and that will bring negative consequences in the long run.
One of the dreams that causes the most revulsion and to some extent horror, is dreaming about having sex with your best friend. Whether you are a heterosexual woman or a man, it is not a sign that you are seeing your best friend with different eyes. In both cases, it is a clear reflection of the level of closeness you feel for her, in the most innocent sense of the word, and that this girl possesses traits you wish were part of your own personality. There is a type of attraction called “proximity attraction”, where you tend to confuse affection with desire. If you have clearly defined boundaries, you do not have to make the mistake of feeling this desire in your lucid life.
Dreaming of sex with your partner
Evidently, it is extremely normal to dream that you make love with your partner. It is the one in whom you place all your trust, who is there at all times and one of the most important people in your life. If you recently dreamt that you made love with your partner, it is a very good indication, since it means that you are at a very solid point in your relationship. You have come to accept your partner as he or she is, and you are more aware than ever of his or her qualities. If it turns out that you are not on the best of terms at the moment, this dream represents that frustration you feel within yourself to be able to clarify everything, and that you are refraining from fully expressing your feelings.
Dreams with gay sex
If you are a heterosexual person, you have nothing to worry about. Having homosexual relations in your dreams is not synonymous with being homosexual or having homosexual desires. On the contrary, it is a very good indication that you are learning to love and accept yourself as you are, leaving behind that banal concern for the slightest physical defects you may possess. Through this dream, you are managing to merge or incorporate new aspects to your personality that make you a better person. It is normal for you to be a little curious about what it will feel like to have sex with someone of the same sex, you don’t have to be overwhelmed about it. Rather, through this dream you can mature and learn to balance your emotions in your lucid life.
Dreaming of sex with another woman
If you are a man, you are currently in a relationship and you dreamt that you made love to another woman, it does not mean that you are willing to be unfaithful to your partner. In fact, in most cases it is an esoteric representation of the fear that you feel because infidelity is present in your relationship, either on your part or your partner’s. It is not a premonition. It is not a premonition, nor something that will happen in the future, but at this moment there are latent in you a series of internal insecurities and anxieties that, if you do not manage to control in time, could bring you real problems in the long run, such as unhealthy jealousy and senseless arguments. If you are with a person, you must accept them and trust them fully, as it does you no good to assume the worst, in this way you cannot live fully.
Dreams of sex with a stranger
If you recently dreamed that you had sex with a stranger, it does not mean that in the near future you will become uninhibited and sleep with anyone who crosses your path. In reality, that stranger in your dream symbolizes that a new you is emerging thanks to various changes you are going through recently. In addition, it means that you will put aside doubts and will open up and take advantage of new challenges and new opportunities that present themselves from now on.
Dreaming of sex with someone
The dream in which you have sex with someone, is the one that is more inclined and actually does reflect a concrete sexual desire. Maybe at this moment you are experiencing some kind of repressed sexual frustration, either because you do not have an active sex life, or because the relationship you currently have does not satisfy you at all. For this reason, you need to put prejudices aside, and think about your own pleasure; don’t be afraid to spice up your relationship and think about your own satisfaction.
Dreaming of sex with sister
As strange as it may seem, dreaming about having sex with your sister doesn’t have to alarm you. It does not mean that you are having incestuous desires for your sister, nor that you have stopped seeing her as a relative and started seeing her as a woman. In reality, it means that you are attracted to a person you know you shouldn’t be, and it’s not exactly your sister. For example, you may be married, and you may find a female co-worker attractive enough to awaken your masculine side. However, you consciously know that it is not right to feel this kind of desire, so your brain externalizes this clash between your rejection and latent desire by placing the face of your sister in your dreams on the woman you are attracted to.
Dreams with sex with a relative
If you have never in your life been the victim of an incestuous situation in your waking life, this is one of the most disturbing sex-related dreams, since rather than being a dream, it is a nightmare. But do not be alarmed: it is not synonymous that you are suffering from some kind of imbalance or something similar, but it is related to discomforts in your life, or past traumas that you have buried inside you, not necessarily having to be related to sex. In this case, I recommend that you get in touch with a professional in the matter, since there are some elements in your life strongly buried that will not be able to emerge on their own, and that if you do not manage to dissipate may bring you difficulties in the long run.